Sovereignty at Solstice

When you’re over-thinking, you’re under-feeling.

Which might be a sign that you’re actually really sensitive and just trying to keep yourself safe from overwhelm.

Being a deep feeler in this world can be a tough ride, and our culture’s hyper focus on always-on productivity amplifies the struggle.

This time of year can be particularly challenging when our true nature aligns more closely with the quiet darkness of the late fall, yet we’re constantly overstimulated by holiday shopping, gathering and socializing.

A good first step to managing the dissonance between our inner need for peace and the outer noise of the social season is to bring gentle attention to the signs of struggle you’re experiencing, without judgment or self-blame. Rather than pushing yourself to fit-in with what the outer world demands, seek greater understanding for your own way of being. Begin by noticing…

 In the Body

•  Fatigue: Feeling drained even after short interactions.

•  Tension Headaches: Stress-related shoulder tightness or stiff neck.

•  Sensory Overload: Feeling uncomfortable with bright lights, loud noises, or crowded spaces.

 In the Heart

•  Irritability: Becoming easily annoyed by minor inconveniences.

•  Emotional Outbursts: Crying or anger that feels disproportionate to the situation.

•  Anxiety or Dread: Worrying about upcoming events, conversations, or expectations.

In the Mind

•  Difficulty Concentrating: Struggling to focus on tasks or conversations.

•  Overthinking: Worrying about responding appropriately or anticipating conflict.

•  Decision Fatigue: Feeling paralyzed by too many choices or commitments.

 In the Actions

•  Withdrawal: Canceling plans, avoiding calls.

•  Procrastination: Delaying tasks or responsibilities.

•  Compensation: Over-indulging in distractions like food, drink, or social media.

To regain the inner alignment you crave, try to…

Practice Daily Grounding

•  Connect to calm in whatever ways work best for you

•  Try placing a hand on your heart centre and exhaling slowly, repeat 3 times

•  Take nature walks or practice tree-leaning (stand with your back against a tree)

Create Rituals of Rest

•  Dedicate time for activities that rejuvenate you, such as reading or journaling

•  Take "micro-breaks" during social gatherings—excuse yourself to step outside or be alone

•  Intersperse productive task periods with time for play and creativity

 Communicate Your Needs

•  Be honest about your capacity in a kind but firm way

•  Be brave and set boundaries with others in advance

•  Suggest alternatives if something doesn’t work for you

Protect Your Energy

•  Choose your experiences with conscious intention

•  Schedule downtime to recharge before and after social activities

•  Bring a grounding object, like a small crystal, to social events

When we find ourselves overly detached from what could otherwise be a deeply felt experience, or just feeling generally numb, that’s a clear indicator we’ve left our empathic self to flounder. Consider inviting-in some self-compassion by reminding yourself that you deserve care, your needs are valid, and it’s not only ok, but necessary to take care of your sensitive side. Support your sacred sovereignty this solstice.